Haha! So yeah I went there. I tried Match.com and I'm not quite sure it lived up to my expectations. I became an inactive member of the site a while back. I began to really use it this past December. I realized I want to be in a relationship and I am at the point in my life where I am emotionally ready to be in one. What should go without being said is that my dating life will never take precedence over motherhood nor my gym time lol. So I made a medium sized blurb trying to sum myself up in a few hundred words and to try to attract the type of men I am attracted to. I've gotten some response, but it's not all what I have been looking for.I do have some specific preferences when choosing a potential mate. I honestly am not trying to be overly picky, but I AM allowed to have standards:
gainfully employed
some college work completed
0-2 kids (only 2 if previously married and they are by the same mother)
no drug/alcohol abuse
truly a good person
great communicator
seeks opportunity for betterment in different aspects of his life
dare I say good looking? - I'm no Shallow Hal but looks are important
nice teeth
takes health seriously (workouts regularly)
intelligent
older than me by at least 5 years (29-45 range)
mature and responsible
religious and/or spiritual
White,Middle Easter or Latino (a strong preference to white)
would prefer them to be 5'8 and up
Here's what I've discovered thus far:
1) black guys who completely ignore in my profile that I am down with the swirl. lol Not that I won't date another black guy, but I REALLY prefer not to. I've been there done that and my experiences dating white men have been better,
2) the guy whose ultimate goal is to sleep with you. Like I talked to this guy on the phone 2x and he was ALREADY talking about "if he got tipsy", me inviting him to my hotel room.#booandbye #you'redone! How presumptuous can you be? Not only is that a turn off..it pisses me off. But as my dad says "better to be pissed off, than pissed on" lol He won't ever get face time with me!
3) the divorcee. the guy who has a crazy, sarcastic sense of humor that cracks you up, good looks (total silver fox) and piercing blue eyes....yeah but he's divorcing. like literally in the middle of one. So you know he is not emotionally available and is about having fun and living his life. So although, he fits the bill for most of the things you look for in a man, he is not mate potential right now. You know that you two can have fun together, but unfortunately for us both I am seeking something more than carnal delight
4) the nice guy. he's a pretty decent guy. Works, has some college, no kids. He's not doing bad for himself. and although you are are attracted to his personality and you speak on a regular basis, you are not sure where things can go/if they can go anywhere. While he does have strong points, he lives with his parents (in a 2 br apartment, but he's in his late 30s). You want someone doing better than you. He also decided to go back to college and get his degree NOW. That means his earning potential is delayed until at least another 4-6 years. also, you don't know if you really do want anymore kids *shrugs*
*le sigh* the trials of dating!
Have any of you tried online dating? How did it work out?
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Sunday, March 18, 2012
March 19 - 11 Day Body Transformation Begins
Well the moment has arrived. Time to REALLY step things up for my lifestyle change/weight loss journey. The next 11 days I will be sticking to a strict Isagenix plan! It will be the cleanse that I'm supposed to be already doing, but that I am not doing as strictly as I should be.
It will look something like this: (all days at least 20 minutes of light activity is recommended)
Days 1-2 pre-cleanse days (they will be the same as shake days: 1 breakfast shake, 400-600 calorie lunch, 1 shake for dinner. 2 low cal snacks for the day + at least 64 oz of water)
Days 3-4 CLEANSE days. I will be drinking 16 oz of Cleanse for Life per day with an additional 75-100 oz of water and LIGHT snacking (carrots, cucumber slices etc)
Days 5-8 shake days (same as pre-cleanse days)
Days 10-11 final cleanse days
This will carry me to March 30 and I'm hoping to lose about 10 lbs doing it. I will still be working out about 4x a week and I'm ready to REALLY lose this weight. Summer is swiftly approaching which means less clothes are to be worn lol! :)
It will look something like this: (all days at least 20 minutes of light activity is recommended)
Days 1-2 pre-cleanse days (they will be the same as shake days: 1 breakfast shake, 400-600 calorie lunch, 1 shake for dinner. 2 low cal snacks for the day + at least 64 oz of water)
Days 3-4 CLEANSE days. I will be drinking 16 oz of Cleanse for Life per day with an additional 75-100 oz of water and LIGHT snacking (carrots, cucumber slices etc)
Days 5-8 shake days (same as pre-cleanse days)
Days 10-11 final cleanse days
This will carry me to March 30 and I'm hoping to lose about 10 lbs doing it. I will still be working out about 4x a week and I'm ready to REALLY lose this weight. Summer is swiftly approaching which means less clothes are to be worn lol! :)
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Bad Headspace
I hate days like this when the custody stuff really gets me down. All I keep thinking is that there must be light at the end of the tunnel and I keep praying and believing that one day there will be a positive outcome to this!
As anyone out there going through something similar? I will tell you, this has been the most emotionally draining episode of my life! *sigh*
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
As anyone out there going through something similar? I will tell you, this has been the most emotionally draining episode of my life! *sigh*
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
Money Issues- Rearing Its Ugly Head Again!
*big sigh* So I hate it when your money issues get temporarily solved and then BAM! Back to where you were. This trip to NYC is going to DRAIN and DEPLETE my bank account. I have to pay for gas, tolls and now a place to stay for 7 nights because no one I know has space and those that do will be gone for Easter! PERFECT! Oh and did I mention Father of the Year is $1,000+ in arrears? That money would have covered the trip to NYC and then had some left over!
Now I realized I must work ANY and ALL hours Benefit has for me!I need em all. I may even reach out to my old RAM in NY/NJ area to see if she has any hours for that week I'm in the city. With school starting in May, I will have to take out some more loans! I'm not opposed to that as long as I can keep my debt manageable. I know that once I get hired as a nurse, my opportunities for advancement and higher salary will be much better than now.
I will need to pay for the next Get Fit Club session 12 weeks, might be prorated with the week I will be gone),$50 TRX (2 sessions), monthly Y membership. Daycare expenses for the month of April. Gas to and from work, $40 for my A2 testing at EKU in April or May, toiletries, diapers, more spring clothes for Liam, personal styling/clothes buying, my photoshoot with Alicia and team which I think may be the last time I shoot until October!!! My goal was 3 shoots this year and this will make 2.
Uggh! I hate being stressed about this crap! :/
Now I realized I must work ANY and ALL hours Benefit has for me!I need em all. I may even reach out to my old RAM in NY/NJ area to see if she has any hours for that week I'm in the city. With school starting in May, I will have to take out some more loans! I'm not opposed to that as long as I can keep my debt manageable. I know that once I get hired as a nurse, my opportunities for advancement and higher salary will be much better than now.
I will need to pay for the next Get Fit Club session 12 weeks, might be prorated with the week I will be gone),$50 TRX (2 sessions), monthly Y membership. Daycare expenses for the month of April. Gas to and from work, $40 for my A2 testing at EKU in April or May, toiletries, diapers, more spring clothes for Liam, personal styling/clothes buying, my photoshoot with Alicia and team which I think may be the last time I shoot until October!!! My goal was 3 shoots this year and this will make 2.
Uggh! I hate being stressed about this crap! :/
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Fitness Goals This Week
Workout 5x! - I might get 6 in if I'm lucky, but I'm going to try and push myself and get these in!
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thrs?
Friday after work
Saturday - Yoga Meltdown
Lose 1.5-2lbs
Friday and/or Saturday do a fruit and veggie only mini cleanse
My 11 Day Body Transformation mini-challenge (through Isagenix) begins Monday, March 19. I am prepared to lose 5-7 lbs during this. I'm going to be strict and diligent. By the time I hit NYC April 7, I'd like to be in the 280s.
So who's with me?!? :)
Thrs?
Friday after work
Saturday - Yoga Meltdown
Lose 1.5-2lbs
Friday and/or Saturday do a fruit and veggie only mini cleanse
My 11 Day Body Transformation mini-challenge (through Isagenix) begins Monday, March 19. I am prepared to lose 5-7 lbs during this. I'm going to be strict and diligent. By the time I hit NYC April 7, I'd like to be in the 280s.
So who's with me?!? :)
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Life Without Ritalin - James W.L. my friend the artist...this is amaze!
http://whitefox-thetruth.blogspot.com/2012/03/life-without-ritalin-works-2012_3316.html
My best friend in the whole wide world is an amazing talent! Do yourself a favor and check out the above link to one of the pieces in his collection: Life Without Ritalin
This work took my breath away. He is talented and his work is raw! <3
My best friend in the whole wide world is an amazing talent! Do yourself a favor and check out the above link to one of the pieces in his collection: Life Without Ritalin
This work took my breath away. He is talented and his work is raw! <3
Monday, March 12, 2012
Down some more lbs!
I WILL post a YT vid ASAP and edit this post to include it but for now...I lost 3.6 lbs as of Saturday March 10 and that puts me @ a total weight loss of 35.6 lbs...WOW! I'm approaching 40lbs! :)
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